You are not a mother_______ factor! Not the answer you expect that a spurned wife would get from the other women, but that is exactly what happened on Basketball Wives. This is what must see TV has devolved into. Entertaining, yes. Good for black women as a sisterhood, no! This show highlights supposedly affluent women living the good life. The problem is that the only reason that these women are living well is due to divorce and child support settlements. Well that’s a problem for this group of fabulous women that is earning our money the old fashioned way; working hard and pooling it into good investments. That sounds like a great reality show to us but what are the odds of that happening…
Business people are in the business of making money honey! And, what makes money for these big TV execs are ratings, ratings, ratings!!!! Ask Charlie Sheen if you think I don’t know what I’m talking about. People who are serious about making money have never been ambivalent or reluctant about exploiting others. So, yes, these woman are being exploited, undoubtedly consensual, and have set black women back many years, but interestingly enough these reality shows that highlight “divas gone wild” are top-rated shows. What does that say about our society as whole? What does it say about our society when a young women can become a instant sensation and a multi-million dollar franchise simply by making a video-tape of herself having sex with her boyfriend? What does that say about our young sister girls who’d rather watch these programs (and they are rapidly increasing – check out BRAVO, WE tv, E, and MTV ), and set out to follow the same path as these women instead of studying hard to get into a good college, obtaining a good job, creating a successful career and simply making their money the old-fashion way? These particular basketball wives may not epitomize the type of women we want our daughters to aspire to, but they certainly live the lifestyle that many of us want; of course minus the cheating husbands, naked pictures on the internet and friends incapable of putting two declarative sentences together (sorry Suzie – come to think of it – she’s definitely a non MF’king factor {what does that even mean, Evelyn???}). I mean, come on! Let’s be honest. Who doesn’t want a big house, beautiful cars, designer clothes, shoes and bags and access to private schools for their children? What about spending days at the spa drinking mimosas, taking exotic vacations, and owning stock portfolios that even Donald Trump would envy? Sounds utterly intoxicating doesn’t it? Who doesn’t want all of that? We do – gosh-darn it!!! That’s who! After all, isn’t that the reason we created this investment group? Don’t lie. It certainly wasn’t for the stimulating conversations, which we can get at any time by picking up the phone ‘cause that’s just how we roll! Bottom line? What separates us from those beautifully dressed and perfectly coiffed LOSERS (okay, okay, okay, maybe they’re not entirely losers. Some of them have their own businesses in addition to money they collect from their husbands…oh, sorry, boyfriends…oh sorry, baby daddy…oh sorry…friends with benefits), aside from the few million dollars they purport to have (we’ll get there eventually, ya’ll), is that while we might all be on serious mission to procure wealth, we’re doing so with our integrity intact. Can they say the same? Hhm…which route would you choose??? Don’t lie….
I will always choose to have options…Because being FANSY (getting my hair and nails did…paying my bills…and getting an education) works every time. I want my daughter to know that she has options. I don’t blame these women for doing “them” but they have a responsibility to respond to the community of sisters who admire their behavior. And for the life of me, I don’t know why. Yes, they are business women and are selling a product, but at what cost. They say that “good Black men are rare”; I don’t want to wake up one day and they are saying the same about “Black women.”
I am absolutely disgusted with the way some black women have to make their claim to fame. For me, I will always maintain my integrity as a Christian, wife and a mother.
Well, that show is a complete and total mess. It is no better that the Real Housewives series. I do agree with SC that this stuff sells and draws in viewers. We have allowed ourselves to be exploited. I believe as a professional woman that I need to EARN my money & make it work for me and my family. I wouldn’t feel good about myself “flossin” with money I got for my looks as a trophy girlfriend/wife.
Wow, great comments. What can I say? Although I understand that it is about making money and ratings, I don’t think you need to sell your soul in the process. It is evident that sex and sensationalism is what sells today, those who have such a story will do so and make money in the process. But how many of us can do that? Look, who among us don’t want money, a big house and the high life? But at what cost? These woman, clearly didn’t get there as a result of hard work the old fashion way ( education, sacrifice) and they won’t stay there as is evident. Where are they now? Divorce, broken family and almost broke; and is chasing the next athlete–bb player, football player,
etc. That is not what I want for my daughter. I am sad to say that a show about educated women pooling their resources and investing to attain wealth will not sell, but it will make us independent and in control of our own destiny, as oppose to depending solely on the man in my life and alimony support. Hence, the show, the need to survive and make their own income!!!